Jul 01 2016

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Protect your marriage, date your spouse

The word for today is protect.

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Date your spouse


Thursday is date night. It’s my turn to pick what we do. I am not creative when it comes to coming up with ideas for a good date. We have no money left in our date budget, so creativity has to rise to the occasion.

I run through some ideas from a date ideas e-book I bought. I think about what I want to do and what I think we both could enjoy. Then, the ideas come and my energy is peeked.

Here’s the plan, we’ll will go through the house and gather books and DVD’s we don’t want and take it to 2nd and Charles. If we get some money or credit, it’ll be fun to spend. Then we will walk around the mall window shopping and talking. The walking and talking in the mall help us escape some of the summer heat. Then we will head home and take some more questions from the Now We’re Talking!* book.


(Where does the time go?) And on to the protect your marriage part…

This is a window into my world on Thursday evenings. One of the questions in the Now We’re Talking!* book asked about affair proofing your marriage. While our marriage is far from perfect, dating each other has been the biggest boost to our marriage. With all the “stuff” that comes with marriage, including financial and health issues, the marriage relationship is easily shoved off to the side in place of the important and pressing matters.

At some of the lowest points in our marriage, we had stopped enjoying the gift of each other and stopped taking time to simply enjoy life. When we carved out time and some money to date each other, our relationship made a turn for the better.


What are your best frugal and fun date ideas?

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  1. Andrew Budek-Schmeisser

    This is really important, and something that went by the wayside in our marriage when I got sick. I distance has grown that is not easy to bridge; it is a necessary thing in a way, as I will not survive this and it may make it easier for my wife to be more detached. But still, not easy, and I do miss what’s been lost.

    #1 at FMF this week.

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    1. Cheryl

      No one talks much about the “in sickness” part of the vows.
      Do you know of anyone who did “marriage in the midst of illness” well? I’ve heard stories that romanticized a loving spouse caring for the ailing spouse but not so much on the realities of walking in the midst of it.
      I can see how detachment makes it easier, in a sense. Loneliness is a painful road for both.
      Connecting in the midst of suffering is both challenging and risky. You both are traveling the same road together but experiencing it in a totally different way. I can see how that can be polarizing.
      Praying for wisdom and courage. The answers are not easy.
      Thank you so much for sharing your story.

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