Jan 20 2017

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One Easy Way to Refine Your Life

The Five Minute Friday word is refine.

One Easy Way to Refine Your Life

One Easy Way to Refine Your Life


I thought I’d break a blood vessel. The stress was at a peak. All I needed to do was get the music onto my iPad. I’m tech savvy. A glitch was keeping me from backing up and syncing. I waited longer than I should have and was late for my lesson. And, I didn’t get the music where I wanted. I brought the CD in hopes they’d have a player.

I huffed into my car. Sitting and beginning to drive, the truth thought came: Your life isn’t horrible you have a good life. So, I refined my attitude by redirecting my thoughts toward thanks. I rattled them off so easily.

I’m in the car and on my way. 

Thank you. 

I have gas in the car. 

I have students to teach. 

I kept going. And my stress went down.

One easy way to refine your life is to ask yourself the question: What is the next best thing for me to do right now? For that moment, because I had invested in PARK, I knew praying the truth about my life—with a focus on thanks—was exactly what I need to do.


What is the next best thing for you to do right now?

I used to think big change happened when I made super big and excruciatingly difficult decisions, but sometimes it’s simply choosing the next best thing. It might be obvious and easy. I’ve been reading How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind: Dealing with Your House’s Dirty Little Secrets (Amazon affiliate link) and found encouragement in decluttering by starting with the obvious and easy—throw away the trash. (By the way, I love, love, love this book. I will be writing more about it at another time.)

Once you know what the next best thing is to do, go do that. Will this solve all the problems of the world? No. Will you be going in a better direction if you decide and do? Yes. It’s a question that directs the asker towards self-awareness. Self-awareness is a powerful force in refining your life.


The PARK Plan is helping redirect my thoughts towards Biblical truth. It’s changing how I think and approach my everyday life as I Pray the truth, Ask God to lead me into his priorities, Rest in his sovereignty, and Keep moving forward. If you haven’t already, sign up to receive my exclusive, subscriber-only emails about the PARK Plan. Connect your faith and real life with the PARK Plan.

PARK helped me know my “next best thing to do.” What helps you?

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  1. Liz

    I love the question what is the next best thing for me to do now? I need to ask that question more often, it might prevent Mommy meltdowns. I hope you have a great weekend.

    1. Cheryl

      Ah, the mommy meltdowns. I wasn’t think of the meltdowns when I wrote, but I agree that the question would pop my anger bubble and help me to parent better rather than the destruction I feel.

      Let’s use that question and see the transformation.

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