Sep 22 2017

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I accepted a life

The Five-Minute Friday word for today is accept. With all my thoughts about accept, I was drawn to one proposal I accepted that changed the course of my life.

I accepted a life

I accepted a life


We sat together, having a private moment exchanging gifts. With the magic of Christmas morning, he gave me one more gift.

A small box.

Just there right size…for a ring.

I hoped and held back my excitement.

When I opened it and saw that it was indeed a ring, I smiled and looked over to him. He was already on bended knee, ready to propose. Of course, I accepted. He was my dearest friend, and I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. And the adventure began.

Had I known the twists and turns life would take us, would I have accepted his offer? There were times over the years I regretted it. But as I am now—who I am now—I realize God knew best in putting us together. Those tough spots in our lives molded and deepened me. Those plot twists became friends and experiences I wouldn’t have otherwise.

Instead of accepting a man to be my husband, I accepted a life. This life is full. I’m thankful for him and the family we have together.


I’ve been married for twenty-one years. It’s taken me a long time to get there, but I think Mr. Real is awesome. I can think that and not lose myself in the process. Yes, during some of my roughest times, I believed his awesomeness diminished me. That was a soul-sucking lie. But we hung in there to discover the beauty of marriage—accepting and loving each other.

In what ways have you grown because of your life?

We all make choices that lead us to the life we have today. I shared my choice to marry and how it has grown me. Marriage isn’t the only life choice that grows us. Choices come in big and small packages. In God’s hands, they are all opportunities to mold us into his image.

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  1. Suzette K.

    I never thought about marriage as accepting a whole other person’s life, but it is just that. Thanks.

    1. Cheryl

      In marriage, we’re accepting a new life and all that entails. In the process, we’re growing in accepting the one we married.

      Thanks for visiting.

  2. Donna

    I loved your entry! My 23rd wedding anniversary is tomorrow and I loved your idea of accepting a life – it’s so true. Great job 💙
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    1. Cheryl

      Happy Anniversary!

  3. Andrew Budek-Schmeisser

    Cheryl, you’re so right! Marriage IS all about accepting a life…the good, the bad, and the ugly (ask my wife about the latter).

    I thin it fits something about which I thought today…I was walking our two Ridgebacks (sisters, also known as The Velociraptors, aka THEM!) and realized that had illness not put paid to my academic career when it did, they would be dead. We found them on their last-chance showing by a local animal shelter, in a Wal-Mart parking lot. They were little them,playing tug-of-war with a toy…and the thought that they would soon be dead did not sit well with either Barbara or me.

    Had I not developed the cancer which made teaching impossible, those two, Reebok and Josie, would not have survived.

    I do not regret what happened. And I would never, ever wish them away in return for a restoration to health.

    #1 at FMF this week.


    1. Cheryl

      I’m sure your wife can attest to the good, the bad, and the ugly. In her striving to love you well, she is giving you good gift after good gift.

      When I think about my grief over what I thought life was going to be like, I, too, don’t regret because of unexpected realities that would not have been without the loss. The grief and pain were real but so is my reality today. That’s much like your Ridgebacks. There’s no exchanging the value they have to you.

  4. Jennifer

    So thankful that, I too, accepted the life offered me with the man who is my husband..and for the 32 years of life we have created so far!!

    1. Cheryl

      Congratulations on 32 years together!

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