I could feel the anxiety building up in my chest. There isn't enough time. There isn't enough time! I felt the weight of the world beating down on me. The long, long list of things that never got even a second of my time, let alone done.
When am I going to get it together? I asked myself. I felt like an epic failure on every front. I could still see in my mind the sad, tear-filled eyes of one of my children as I sent him off to bed. I was too harsh. Again. Sigh.
The next day, and past the intensity of the moment, I felt free to laugh a little at myself. So I told another mom about my mom failure. (I am super glad I don't live a reality TV life with the whole world capturing my worst moments.) Instead of a judging eye, she smiled and told me my confession encouraged her. She knew the feeling. My story was our story.
Do you know the feeling—the mommy failure feeling? You are not alone. I'm right there with you. And more than that, know that those feelings are just that. Feelings weighted heavily against you and rarely in light of all the wins.
In mommy failure mode, we see wins through a microscope and failures through a magnifying glass. Wins at parenting, even the small ones, are still wins. Failure, even the big ones, do not define us. We are not the sum total of our biggest failures.
How can we best fight the feeling of mom failure?
When I’ve had a particularly hard day and am sure I win at worst mom on the planet, I need a good dose of truth and encouragement. I'm always on the hunt for ways I can move toward aligning my heart with what is true and get the encouragement I need to stay the course. I’m excited to point you in the direction of this brand new (and free!) video series created by two moms who have lived their fair share of #momfail days.
Stephanie and Beth are not only popular bloggers, but they’re also moms in the trenches. They’ve got 8 kids and almost 20 years of mothering experience between them.
They also understand and have the deepest compassion for moms who are working their tails off, but still hitting the pillow at night with a heavy heart and tear-stained face, because they feel like they’re failing at one of the most important things they’ll ever do in their lives.
And so they’ve put together an honest, candid and incredibly encouraging series of three videos just for moms. It’s called “The Truth About #MomFail Culture: 10 Things You Need to Hear on the Hard Days”.
It won’t solve all your problems, and much as they wish they could, they can’t reach through the computer and fold that pile’o’laundry for you. But we can all benefit from a fresh perspective and encouragement from someone who really gets it.
Each video is short – around 10 minutes, and you can watch it on any sort of device and whenever you’ve got a few spare minutes. I can spare 10 minutes if it means truth and encouragement. Can't you?
To watch the video series, just click this link and enter your name and email to sign up. You’ll get access to the first video today, and then one per day after that.
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